‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.’ Budda
Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist who specialises in the study of anger. Like other emotions, anger is accompanied by physiological and biological changes. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy, hormones, and adrenaline. Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry with a specific person (such as a co-worker or supervisor) or an event (a traffic jam, a cancelled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.
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Anger expressed at a relatively low/medium temperature is normal, healthy and human emotion. However, when anger gets out of control and becomes destructive it can lead to problems at work, with loved ones, in relationships, or with any children you may have ( individuals have a tendency to find it easier to express anger at home, as the implications seem to be have a lesser punishment, although the long term trends of such expression are far reaching ). Anger can also cause people to feel hurt/guilt/shame, loss of friendships , loss of your own clear perception, loss of your job, a deep rooted struggle with the guilt/shame during anger cycles, loss of a loved ones and to possibly miss out on many opportunities. The implications are serious – divorce, broken friendships and relationships, loss of clients, depression, redundancy, violence, injury and, in some cases, prison. Anger can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Well, we can safely say that you are not. After carrying out extensive research of anger management solutions we would now like to take this opportunity to recommend persons looking to gain some control upon their anger or to intellectually understand anger and it's implications (this is different to what all other anger companies would put forward ). We recommend the training course http://www.partnerabuseinterventions.co.uk/ or http://www.respect.uk.net/ ( this will soon have a full listing of courses through out the country ). A few of the London based companies are Families without Fear Project 0207 644 6255. Plumstead the Good Man Centre 02088557564. Adam Duke highgate 0207 267 8713 and finally Siri counselling which is an Afro Caribbean Center 0871 8553223. There are many other support centers throughout the country. ( please go to some of the well recognised organisations via your google searches eg www.google.co.uk then please type in a few relevant key words ) Additionally the National Health service are currently 10 free therapeutic sessions ( and certain cases more are available ) via your general practictioner ( GP ). There are strict rules attendance and punctuality rules to be adhered to here. Although at the same time there are many many other avenues available. If you are a victim of violence please to go to
http://www.dvip.org/ or http://www.womensaid.org.uk supports 500
domestic violence and sexual violence services across the country. In
some quite frequent and common cases: the perpetrators of violence
require legal measures upon some of their actions inorder to gain some
level of control of such behaviour and or their partners to avoid such
behaviour by leaving there partner. It is highly recommended during or
after some form of action that support is gained via the one
organisations above. In some cases the physical abuse has less effect
than the psychological cycles that a perpetuator instigates. Good luck in your search.
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